After working in the clothing department in the film industry for more than a dozen years, I know one or two things about fashion. One of my many tasks involved the difficult and complicated process of purchasing the perfect celebrity outfit.
When I say perfect, I mean perfect – that red 1950s dress that the director had his heart on the lookout or that simple white T-shirt that is actually not easy at all!
I remember having 3 cardigans to show off Sally Fields. Jessica Alba was extremely passionate about her underwear, and I won’t say the words, but I had to change the waist of the Boss jeans of a leading person three times before she was happy. I walked into a mall with Arnold Schwarzenegger, sat on the edge of a fashion talk with David Bowie, and helped put Will Farrell in an elf suit. All the moments to remember and all that fashion says.
Many people who have never worked in a film often ask what it is like to wear such important people. I often say the same thing as dressing my three-year-old. They know what they like and they know what they want!
For almost two years, I walked around happily playing with my son in the boys’ clothing and fashion. Many of his scrapbook pictures have him in a vest, a button-down shirt, and even a bow tie. I used to enjoy the attention he would get from strangers who loved his clothes and thought he looked so cute …
… until one day she woke up and had a fashion sense of her own. Suddenly I was working again, trying to reason with someone who was protesting, shouting, and throwing his clothes down. Like the previous stars, I have to negotiate, enforce, and try to convince her to dress.
Don’t get me wrong! I love that my son is aware of the complexity of fashion. She has her favorites, like a shirt that has to be washed every second day so she can wear it all the time. We passed one boat that did not leave for three days in a row. She tells her friends about her favorite “jaguar” shirt, it’s not like throwing a word you can hear on any design trailer set. Speed McQueen, Diego, and Scooby Do is his version of Prada, Vuitton, and Max Mara. They all mean something, and they somehow make her feel better.
I started taking my son to the mall (something we try to avoid firmly by the characters) to choose what he liked. Many of the items I have chosen are rejected or abandoned when she decides to wear them. Once she has it in her mind she wants to wear something, I know there is no amount to show her anything that can change you. Kinda is like the arrival of Lindsay Wagner from LA and, even though we showed her more than two hundred things, she wanted something she had in her suitcase.
Now, why do we stick to our clothes? Third, it seems unlikely that he would be taught morals. Trying to explain how a navy blue shirt collides with Nike’s red and gray shorts seems to be beyond his comprehension. Yet sometimes I see his look in the mirror and his confidence grows when he takes off his “race car” shirt. Is it different from my favorite Gucci boots or cashmere jersey?
Regardless of our age or gender, what we wear reflects on how we feel. My son loves red; her best friend can’t live without pink. No one told them or showed them that what you were wearing could make you feel good. The only conclusion I can find is that it should be coded in some way, regardless of nature or influence. My upbringing in the city of fifty thousand did not stop me from selling my purple hair or wearing blue lipstick and handcuffs on my belt.
When it comes to fashion, I no longer care about price or gold. How do I feel about wearing it? What kind of smile, smile, or blink of an eye creates that?
When it comes to child fashion, it is very important. Do they laugh, play, and feel comfortable expressing their feelings? Do their clothes extend who they are? Do they give them the strength and confidence they need to become what they want to be and allow them to present themselves happily in the world?
I know in my heart that when I stand back and look at my son, he always shows me who he is. When I try to make her look or look the other way without her character, I always have a fight on my hands. Allowing him to choose what he puts on gives him spiritual strength and confidence. She herself is three years old, she makes the choice to be the person she feels she is, and her clothes stretch and have no power for that.
Don’t let buying your kids be hard! I used to press and stress by buying actor clothes and, looking back, I can see that it was because we were engineering looks. The biggest success in the clothing department came when the character is the person and the clothes were their extensions.
What our children wear does not determine who we are as parents. What our children wear is their independence. So, play with it, enjoy it, and buy their clothes by making them show who they really are. Stop and see with their own eyes who they want to be, and then enjoy what they intend to show you.
Well, I say this for a reason (I’m a mother too) but if it works, go with it. Remember, fashion is just a category. They will grow and change, and their style will grow and change as their attitudes and ideas.